If I could go back into her womb, into my womb, this is what I’d say to our daughters:

You are the most special person in the world. Live it. As long as you have you, you will always have enough. No matter what happens, keep going because life’s highs and lows come and they go. Life never stops moving and neither should you. You are strong and adaptable and capable of adjusting to every change. You have no comparison on this earth. There is no one that will ever live that will exceed you in beauty – the only person that needs to truly understand that is you. Never let the words ‘what is wrong with me?’ become a familiar phrase. You’re perfect. Accept yourself and own your failings – they are just as important as your successes. Know that you’re just as brilliant when you’re down as when you’re standing. Believe believe believe in yourself. Trust your instinct. Feel the fear and do it anyway. Don’t be afraid to say yes and be even less afraid to say, actually no. Follow what you want. Don’t waste yourself where you’re not wanted. Never love anyone more than you love yourself. Endeavour to know yourself inside out but recognise that the unknowable is characteristic of who you are. Find your anchor in yourself – be unmovable but also moveable as life dictates. Never resist change – ride it. Never compete with anyone; wish every other human well. There’s no such thing as can’t; you will. Don’t try to be; you are. Question those that question you. When your heart is broken, celebrate the fact that it will heal. Do whatever you can and don’t worry when you can do nothing. Try new things. Don’t be fazed by pain. Walk boldly into the future. Don’t seek answers to the unanswerable. Cry. Weep and wail. Always conclude with laughter. When you have to try too hard at something, try something else. Never surrender your opinions, truths and concerns. Embrace duality, antithesis and inherent incongruity. Don’t be pressurised. Love the moment. Don’t take for granted how close you are to death. Recognise that you are powerfully powerless. Remember that you always have the ability to choose. Take regular moments of relief. With every hello, be prepared to say goodbye. Don’t give into anxiety as if the instability of life is a surprise to you. Have the confidence to allow the people around you to be nervous, inept and confused. Let your clarity be the reality that you’re breathing. Seek nothing more than the truth that your heart is still pumping.

Never give up.

2 thoughts on “If I could go back into her womb, into my womb, this is what I’d say to our daughters:

  1. daphne

    Absolutely love this! Everyone needs to be reminded of this – particularly anyone going through heartbreak. Thank you for reminding me <3

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  2. Alice

    “Have the confidence to allow the people around you to be nervous, inept and confused. Let your clarity be the reality that you’re breathing.”
    Wonderful. This really resonates with me this morning. Not to let others anxiety be the waves that sink my boat, but to float on, knowing the water beneath me, inside me, is calm.xxx

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